Video discussing recovering after surgery and the importance of a positive mindset.
This video discusses the effects of epilepsy both on the individual and their family members. It can be helpful to find ways to express emotions through art as well as talking.
I was contacted by Healthline which has published an educational article about more of the medical aspects of epilepsy, particularly the effects it has on different systems in the body. I hope you might find this article helpful as you seek out more information about this illness.
New video is up on YouTube today covering body image and ideas about how you can improve body image. Appreciate the topic ideas I received this week via Facebook and welcome any you might have!
We have lots of news this month as I try out some new things that I hope benefit my clients, future clients, and others looking for support.
I’ve just started a YouTube channel! After success with some of my Skype clients, I realized the potential for reaching many more people with short videos on wellness topics. My first video covers job loss, where I address how it can affect people, how people often cope with it, as well as some tips that I have found to be helpful in order to help people cope with this transition. The second video covers self-esteem and self-doubt, a blog topic I covered in November; however, in this video I’ve added some new content I hope you’ll find helpful. Please consider subscribing, commenting, or providing feedback (ie. topics you’d like covered) regarding any of these videos.
This month I held an open house at my office July 20th to show folks my office as well as introduce doTERRA essential oils. As a wellness advocate for doTERRA folks can purchase through me. Essential oils have been used throughout history for multiple purposes. Egyptians used aromatic essential oils extensively in medical practice, beauty treatment, food preparation, and in religious ceremony. Greeks used essential oils in their practices of therapeutic massage and aromatherapy, and Romans used aromatic oils to promote health and personal hygiene. Influenced by the Greeks, Romans, Chinese, and Indian Ayurvedic use of aromatic herbs, the Persians began to refine distillation methods for extracting essential oils from aromatic plants. Modern use of essential oils has continued to grow as health scientists and medical practitioners continue to research and validate the numerous health and wellness benefits of therapeutic-grade essential oil. Let me know if you have further questions about doTERRA essential oils, or if you would be interested in sampling any in particular.
For this month, I first cover assertiveness — using the example of someone you find difficult to work with and how you might approach this rather than holding it in.
Looking forward to sharing more with you! Hope your summer is going well.
My fourth video has been published tonight covering post traumatic stress disorder. Contemplating next week’s video topic, feel free to share your suggestions!
Until then, take care. Jasmine
This post was originally published in November 2013 and is one of the highest viewed posts of mine to date. I decided to create a YouTube video which addresses some of the same content below but includes some additional things to think about. I welcome you to watch!
Recently I was talking to a client of mine about her low self-esteem and self-doubt as she has labeled herself a slow learner. When she spoke about her work related tasks it seemed her striving for perfection is actually what caused her self-doubt and therefore slowing her down on completing tasks she saw her colleagues finishing quickly. Other friends of mine have talked at length about their own self-doubt. I decided to dig into this a little bit more.
One article I read pointed out six main causes of self-doubt, including:
- A lack of self-acceptance
- An inner critic that encourages negative self-talk
- Low self-esteem
- A negative attitude about self
- Self-limiting beliefs
- Excessive criticism during childhood.
Karyl McBride, Ph.D. writes on Psychology Today about many adults possessing self-doubt who have been raised by a Narcissistic Parent. The parent’s questioning of the child develops that inner critic. There is a long list of signs including self-doubt, including anger, fear, anxiety, perfectionism, feeling misunderstood by others, second guessing yourself, dominating conversations, excuse making, self-promotion, lack of achievement, defensiveness, frustration, poor listening skills, bragging/boasting/name dropping in social situations, and discomfort in social situations. While self-doubt and low self-esteem don’t always go hand in hand, it is still common to find them existing together. Additionally, some of the tips for addressing both of these issues are similar.
1. First is to become aware of your self-talk. Negative self-talk reinforces self-doubt and also can lead to depression. Trying to reframe negative thinking can be really helpful. For instance perhaps you had to prepare a large report for work and you spent many hours on it but had to race through the last portion to meet the deadline. You read this report later and think “I blew this report; it looks like crap.” It is possible the last few pages had spelling errors; however, the substance of the report was spot on. Thinking this over you could reframe your thoughts by saying, “this is a thorough report with necessary information; I know I can do better next time by allowing for more time for editing so that the report is more polished.”
2. Keep a journal. Putting thoughts down on paper can be helpful because keeping them in your head only allows them to get bigger. Additionally, if you take the time to write down the things in your day that went poorly — as well as the things you accomplished — perhaps you’ll find the positive outweigh the negative.
3. Develop a support system that encourages you and acknowledges your strengths; this can help solidify positive thinking.
4. Find ways to boost your day whether it be finding inspirational quotes or images to surround yourself with or reading books, calendars, or websites that provide this kind of encouragement, inspiration, and support.
5. Soothe yourself by finding some quiet time, playing your favorite music, or enjoying a cup of hot chocolate/tea/coffee. Being able to appreciate what you have rather than what you desire allows you to nurture yourself.
6. Discover and pursue your passions. Finding things you love to do and can spend time doing is so important. This allows for the creative juices to flow, and often times these things come somewhat naturally, so you may not take as much time out for self-doubt. Doing this can boost confidence and provide a sense of purpose.
7. Lastly redefine failure and keep trying. Failure doesn’t characterize you as a person or determine your worth as a person. There are countless stories of people getting rejection after rejection before they accomplish what they had intended. Perhaps you were rejected by 6 colleges but accepted by 1, you succeeded by getting the chance to attend college.
Building up self-esteem and lowering self-doubt can be a large task. Find ways to continue to work on this and utilizing a counselor can be a great way to strengthen your self-esteem.