I was meeting with a client this week talking about the struggle of saying no.So many of us, wanting to be people pleasers worry about the repercussions of saying no.I challenged my client to think about how saying no might actually be saying yes.Here are some thoughts about how this might be the case:
It can free up time to allow for self-care.
It may allow us to spend more time doing other things that take priority or that have been hanging over our head.
It can allow us to be more present in our lives for the things we have already said yes to.
Maybe by you saying no this allows someone else an opportunity to say yes?
Perhaps saying no to one opportunity actually allows for time to commit to something else.
Recently I’ve reminded myself to take pause before saying yes/no.This allows me time to be thorough and thoughtful in my decision making. If you find yourself still struggling with how to proceed, you might consider what the three most important values/priorities in your life right now.If this new opportunity does not somehow feed into one of those perhaps it is not the time to take this on.If it does align with one of those values then maybe there is something else that you are involved in that you can let go of so that you can more easily say yes?
It is so important to pay attention to what we are involved in from day to day so that we do not become stressed, overwhelmed, resentful, and unhappy in our lives. *7/20/2021 Today I’m adding a podcast where I talk about this same topic. It is something I have come back to yearly with my clients.
Today marks 2 years since my private practice opened. I’ve taken time over the last month to reflect on this powerful journey. It has been such an honor and privilege to work with so many individuals and families who have walked in the door and opened their hearts and minds. Tough questions have been asked, painful circumstances have been shared, accomplishments celebrated, and I’ve watched as my clients have courageously challenged themselves to keep growing and healing. I feel very fortunate and deep gratitude for everyone I have had the opportunity to work with.
I would also like to acknowledge some of those people who have made this endeavor possible. Thank you Michelle Brown, LPC for sharing your office space and creating a warm, welcoming, and safe environment; I so appreciate your assistance and support. Thank you to my supervisors at PeaceHealth Sacred Heart Riverbend for listening, guiding, and supporting me as I continue to works towards my LCSW; this also includes my stellar colleagues there! There are so many individuals who have cheered me on including numerous friends and family both near and far. A special thank you to my professors and classmates at the University of Southern California as well as Chatham University. Last but not least I thank Jeremy for supporting my dreams with unquestionable belief that I can accomplish what I set out to do.
My Very Best,
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~Melody Beattie
My summer travels included visiting the Yaquina Bay Lighthouse
Summer is coming to a close, school preparation is starting and fall is just around the corner. I have been busy this month with several new YouTube videos covering PTSD, Epilepsy, creating boundaries, recovering after surgery, body image, and grief and loss. Four of these topics were suggested by Ignite’s Facebook contacts, I welcome other topic suggestions as well! I am accepting new clients right now so please feel free to send my information along to friends or family if you feel they would benefit from counseling or life coaching. Clients include adolescents, adults, couples, and families who might be experiencing depression, grief and loss, low self-esteem and confidence issues, divorce, job loss, or help with reaching certain life goals.
I hope you have had a safe and happy summer and look forward to providing you with more content in the months to come!
This week’s video covers grief and loss, another topic suggestion someone asked me to highlight. I discuss the variety of feelings you may be feeling, how you might be coping, stages of grief, as well as tips for healing. I hope you’ll subscribe, comment, and send more topic ideas.
Creating healthy boundaries is important in every day activities including among family, friends, in social interactions, at work, at school, and in community settings. Watch this video to find out how to assess and create healthier boundaries.