July Update

We have lots of news this month as I try out some new things that I hope benefit my clients, future clients, and others looking for support.

I’ve  just started a YouTube channel! After success with some of my Skype clients, I realized the potential for reaching many more people with short videos on wellness topics. My first video covers job loss, where I address how it can affect people, how people often cope with it, as well as some tips that I have found to be helpful in order to help people cope with this transition.  The second video covers self-esteem and self-doubt, a blog topic I covered in November; however, in this video I’ve added some new content I hope you’ll find helpful.  Please consider subscribing, commenting, or providing feedback (ie. topics you’d like covered) regarding any of these videos.

doterra oils logo_fullThis month I held an open house at my office July 20th to show folks my office as well as introduce doTERRA essential oils.  As a wellness advocate for doTERRA folks can purchase through me. Essential oils have been used throughout history for multiple purposes. Egyptians used aromatic essential oils extensively in medical practice, beauty treatment, food preparation, and in religious ceremony. Greeks used essential oils in their practices of therapeutic massage and aromatherapy, and Romans used aromatic oils to promote health and personal hygiene. Influenced by the Greeks, Romans, Chinese, and Indian Ayurvedic use of aromatic herbs, the Persians began to refine distillation methods for extracting essential oils from aromatic plants. Modern use of essential oils has continued to grow as health scientists and medical practitioners continue to research and validate the numerous health and wellness benefits of therapeutic-grade essential oil. Let me know if you have further questions about doTERRA essential oils, or if you would be interested in sampling any in particular.

For this month, I first cover assertiveness — using the example of someone you find difficult to work with and how you might approach this rather than holding it in.

Looking forward to sharing more with you!  Hope your summer is going well.

My Best,

Jasmine

Assertiveness: When to address distress?

Perhaps you know someone at work who continues to behave in a way that is causing distress. Maybe they talk very loudly when on the phone and you share an office space with them, or possibly they critique your work in a tone that is condescending.  You might feel like you have given the person the benefit of the doubt, but it seems that this behavior is getting more and more troublesome for you.  When do you decide to address this?  Will talking to this person only make things more awkward and uncomfortable?  Is there something you are doing that is contributing to this co-worker’s behavior?

My first recommendation is to take time to think this out and bounce it off someone you trust.  Dealing with sticky situations in the heat of the moment can make them even more sticky.

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Photo by topgold. Attribution license http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/

Practice how you might approach this conversation.  Find a way to create a private space to talk to this person.  Start the conversation with an appreciation, such as “I really appreciate how much you help me.”  When addressing the issue, provide example of what occurred and how it made you feel.  Then allow the person to take in what you say.  They may need to clarify some things and ask some questions.  Finally, see if you both can find a way to try to resolve what hasn’t been working.  If you don’t have time for that or need more time to consider what might work, make an agreement to check in again to see what either of you might come up with.  Finally, agree to some time frame for seeing if new solution/plan is working for both of you.  This will allow you time to tweak things in the future if needed, and it also keeps the conversation going.